Since planning a wedding can sometimes be quite stressful, I’ve recently been sharing some wellbeing methods that I think you might enjoy.
The projects are not only designed to help clear your mind and keep you calm at demanding periods of your life (coordinating your wedding being a prime example!) but to bring even more happiness to your day-to-day.
The first wellbeing or positive thinking book that I ever properly read was Paul McKenna’s ‘How To Change Your Life In Seven Days’. Now, I know not everyone likes the format or the idea of these books, I have seen many a joke or jibe online about ‘I can make you this…or that’ but in all honesty I quite like them!
Paul McKenna’s writing style and the format of his books make them really easy to read and you can’t help but come away with a refreshed and positive feeling, a little bit more drive and some reaffirmed self-assurance at the very least.
Paul’s ‘I Can Make You Happy’ book follows a similar format and I came across a really interesting exercise that is also one of the easiest to implement (although, as with any of these things, you need to bring along a little commitment!).
‘The Happiness Habit’ within the book showcased that by simply implementing some exercises (that I’ll share with you today) into their daily lives, case studies of people were scientifically proven to have more happiness as an after effect. Who wouldn’t sign up to that right? Even if things are totally hunky dory for you right now, I’m sure that no one would say that they couldn’t take a little more happiness on board!
So this month’s wellbeing method is ‘The Happiness Habit’ taken straight from Paul McKenna’s book…
Wellbeing – The happiness habit
This project is so simple! All you need to do is to commit to the following for the next 30 days and you will start to see the results…
- Laugh and smile for 20 minutes a day:
Whatever it takes to get you smiling and laughing, ensure you’re doing it for 20 minutes every. single. day.
Call your friend who always ends up making you cry with laughter, spend some quality time having fun and making your partner laugh or watching your favourite comedian on TV together. Maybe ridiculous You Tube films make you laugh-out-loud (a personal fave has to be The Honey Badger – ewe so nasty!), whatever floats your boat, do it, every day, for a month, for 20 minutes.
Even making yourself smile and laugh for no reason counts, although maybe do the lone laughing at home, you don’t want peeps in the street to think you’re cray cray!
Smiling and laughing releases serotonin, instantly lightens your mood, lowers your heart rate and alleviates stress. Amen to that!
- Take at least 20 minutes of exercise a day:
Don’t worry I’m not suggesting that you go to the gym every day of the week (I can’t preach what I don’t practice!).
This 20 minutes of exercise can simply be a good old fashioned walk, so simply get off the bus one or two stops earlier or walk down to the shops instead of driving and do it with a brisk pace to get your heart beating faster. If you can turn some of the days into a more exerting workout like going for a run, or to the gym, or to a class, then great.
There is so much scientific evidence supporting the idea that active people are happier and if you can take your exercise outside then even better, as being at one with nature and breathing in some fresh air is meant to boost the feel good factor even further.
- Focus on happy thoughts and memories with the ‘spot the dots’ technique:
Get yourself down to your local craft or stationery store and purchase a pack of colourful dot stickers, or sparkly star stickers, or any small stickers that take your fancy.
Stick at least 12 of these dots or stickers around your home (one on your bathroom mirror maybe, on the kettle, on the fridge, on the biscuit tin!), on your desk at work or even on your mobile phone or in your wallet, they need to be in places that you will see them throughout the day.
Next, make a list of three happy memories, three people you love or who love you and three things that could make you happy in the future. Think deeply about each of these separate memories, about the people you have listed and of the exciting future plans. Thoroughly and with positivity and delight relive the memories, think about how much you care for the people you love and how much they adore you and imagine how great achieving your future happiness will make you feel.
Whenever you see one of the coloured dots or stickers around your home or work space, revert back to one of the nine things on your list and for a moment bring these amazing feelings back to life in your mind, in full colour, and really experience how good they make you feel.
By introducing extra happiness and positive experiences into our lives as a daily habit with ‘The Happiness Habit’ you change the physical activity of your neural pathways and brain chemistry within just one month, enabling us to routinely be happier.
Commit to The Happiness Habit and try it for yourself! And if you do give it a go, be sure to come back and share your experience in the comments box below.
If you want to read more about the experiment that took place to develop this exercise pick up a copy of Paul McKenna’s book ‘I Can Make You Happy’ or read more about it in this article: Make Happiness A Habit